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Parents, take a deep breath: how your kids turn out isn’t fully on you. Of course, parenting plays an important role in shaping who children become, but psychologist Yuko Munakata offers an alternative, research-backed reality that highlights how it’s just one of many factors that influence the chaotic complexity of childhood development. A rethink for anyone wondering what made them who they are today and what it means to be a good parent.
0:53 Why most parenting advice is wrong
1:50 Hurricane children vs. butterfly parents
2:53 The myth of inherited success (or struggle)
5:25 Can you predict who a child becomes?
8:19 Same event, different experience
9:59 The mystery of parenting
11:45 Stop the blame game
12:56 What you learn parenting terminally ill children
15:10 Why parenting is about staying in the moment
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